The Paul Shenar mystery
Previously it has been suggested by Terry Manners that Jeremy first saw Gary Bond in 'Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat', and subsequently formed a relationship with him in 1973. Elsewhere it has been suggested that Gary and Jeremy's relationship lasted seven years, and started when Gary met Jeremy backstage during 'A Talent to Amuse' in 1969. But according to actor's agent David Graham, Gary’s relationship with Jeremy started earlier, in 1963, when Gary Bond was on tour with 'Chips With Everything' in New York.
Had it been within my power to choose, Gary bond would have become my life’s companion. When ‘Chips With Everything’ was brought to New York [which was in 1963], he was among the original British cast that came with it. Ashley-Steiner had been asked by his agent to represent him, and I was the luckly bloke assigned to look after him. Young blonde and handsome he stuck me as the most beautiful man I had ever seen. One Saturday afternoon between performances Gary came to my apartment for a drink and a snack. We ended up in bed together and I was completely smitten. It was only afterwards I learned he was in a relationship with Jeremy Brett at the time. Page 263 - 264 of Casting About: a Memoir by David Graham
And it seems as though Jeremy and Gary's relationship was definitely over by the time Paul Shenar took a trip to England, and was introduced to Jeremy by David Graham. This may have been in 1973, when Paul Shenar took a trip to Europe: according to Paul Shenar's friend, actress Marsha Mason.
When Paul Shenar was planning a trip to London, he asked if I would give him some names to look up while he was there. I thought he would enjoy meeting both Jeremy and Gary, Jeremy because both he and Paul were actors of like stature. Less than a week after Paul's arrival in London Jeremy and Paul called to say they had fallen madly in love. They remained partners for about five years and as had Jeremy and Gary after their affair was over they remained friends until Paul's untimely death several years later.
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